Safety Tips

Your safety matters to us. Here are tips to help you stay safe while using Tando.

At Tando, we're committed to building a respectful, safe space for the Afro community and diaspora. While we take measures to protect our users — including profile guidelines and community standards — your personal safety also depends on the choices you make. These tips will help you navigate online dating safely and confidently.

Protecting Your Profile

Don't share personal details like your home address, workplace, or financial information in your profile or early conversations.
Use photos that don't reveal identifying details (street signs, house numbers, workplace logos).
Keep your social media accounts private until you feel comfortable sharing them.
Be cautious about sharing your full name early on — use your first name only until you've built trust.

Chatting Safely

Take your time getting to know someone before sharing personal information.
Trust your instincts — if something feels off about a conversation, it probably is.
Be wary of people who quickly try to move the conversation off the app to unmonitored platforms.
Never send money or financial information to someone you haven't met in person, no matter how convincing their story is.
Watch for inconsistencies in their stories or profile details — these can be signs of dishonesty.

Meeting In Person

Always meet in a public place for your first few dates — a café, restaurant, or busy park.
Tell a friend or family member where you're going, who you're meeting, and when you expect to be back.
Arrange your own transportation to and from the date. Don't rely on your date for a ride.
Stay sober and alert — avoid drinking too much on early dates.
Have your phone fully charged and easily accessible.
If you feel uncomfortable at any point, leave. Your safety is more important than being polite.

Spotting Red Flags & Scams

Be cautious of profiles with only one photo, no bio, or generic-sounding descriptions.
Watch out for people who express strong emotions very quickly (love bombing).
Never send money, gift cards, or cryptocurrency to someone you've met online.
Be suspicious of people who always have excuses for not meeting in person or video calling.
If someone asks for your banking details, passwords, or identity documents, report them immediately.
Romance scams often involve elaborate stories about emergencies, travel troubles, or medical bills.

Reporting & Blocking

If someone makes you feel uncomfortable, block them immediately — you don't owe anyone an explanation.
Report any profiles that seem fake, suspicious, or violate our community guidelines.
Report any harassment, threats, or inappropriate behaviour through the app.
If you believe you're in immediate danger, contact your local emergency services first, then let us know.
We take all reports seriously and investigate every one.

Consent & Respect

Respect other people's boundaries at all times — both online and in person.
No means no. If someone isn't interested, accept it gracefully and move on.
Consent must be clear, enthusiastic, and ongoing. It can be withdrawn at any time.
Never pressure someone into sharing photos, meeting up, or doing anything they're uncomfortable with.
Treat every person on Tando the way you'd want to be treated.

Need Help?

If you're in immediate danger, always call your local emergency number first. You can also reach us at safety@tandodating.com to report concerns about another user.

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